Mixed Signals · No. 29
What does “I’m going to head out. Let’s talk about something else next time” mean?
From Shay, a friend, in the middle of a heated text conversation about politics
I’m going to head out. Let’s talk about something else next time.
It could mean
- Upset, and stepping away for now
- Bored, and moving on
- Done with the friendship
What was going on
The story behind this one appears here once the week to play it is over. Play it on Mixed Signals to see it now.
Ask before you answer
Text loses tone, so a short message can read harsher, or softer, than it was meant. Before you answer, ask what they meant. That’s Check before assuming, one of the principles Porcupine is built on.
What research says
In experiments about polarizing opinions, people who heard someone explain a view they disagreed with judged that person as more thoughtful than people who read the very same words.
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Find the words with Porcupine
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