Mixed Signals · No. 24
What does “This again… I thought we said we’d wait until after the holidays to talk about it” mean?
From Remy, your partner, after you brought up moving in together again
This again… I thought we said we’d wait until after the holidays to talk about it.
It could mean
- Annoyed you keep asking
- Scared, and not sure how to say why
- Not wanting to move in
What was going on
The story behind this one appears here once the week to play it is over. Play it on Mixed Signals to see it now.
Ask before you answer
Text loses tone, so a short message can read harsher, or softer, than it was meant. Before you answer, ask what they meant. That’s Check before assuming, one of the principles Porcupine is built on.
What research says
In two studies, when people had to make their meaning clear in writing, they marked sarcasm with a winking or tongue-out face, and used “…” more for criticism than for sarcasm.
Got a real text like this? Run a Quills Check.
Paste it. I’ll show you a few ways it could be read, and what you could ask instead of guessing. Writing your own? Switch to “I’m sending it” and I’ll show you if the quills are up.
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Find the words with Porcupine
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Every message and story in Mixed Signals is made up.